I’m bad at relationships. I have this thing where I like to not let people that I’m in a relationship with know me completely, or even really discussing my feeling too much depth. Someone told me that they think its because I’ve encountered so much loss in my life. I don’t know, I kinda think thats bullshit. I’m just scared shitless of letting someone get inside my heart making it their home, leave all their junk around and make a mess, then leave me with all this shit to clean up. The bigger the mess the longer it takes for you to clean up. I’m just not ready to let someone take up residence in my heart until I know that they won’t leave. Love is only something that should be given not taken away.
I’m bad at relationships. I have this thing where I like to not let people that I’m in a relationship with know me completely, or even really discussing my feeling too much depth. Someone told me that they think its because I’ve encountered so much loss in my life. I don’t know, I kinda think thats bullshit. I’m just scared shitless of letting someone get inside my heart making it their home, leave all their junk around and make a mess, then leave me with all this shit to clean up. The bigger the mess the longer it takes for you to clean up. I’m just not ready to let someone take up residence in my heart until I know that they won’t leave. Love is only something that should be given not taken away.
I have recently just hung out with one of my ex/ex best friends. The whole night was so incredibly awesome, I completely forgot how much I loved him as a friend. Even after like 3 years of not being as close as we were we still can read each other disgustingly well. We were catching up walking around out neighborhood; he was telling me about his newest music adventures and crazy ex girlfriend, and i was telling him all about my life and this crossroad that I’m at. Like always when I talk about life with him, I just started crying. He hushed me and made me just sit in silence while he hugged me. This was the absolute best thing that i could have possibly asked for, I’m afraid of silence and in need of affection. My family isn’t huggy or openly loving and a lot of my friendships don’t consist of open expression of love and feelings, so I feel completely starved for affection, haha. He really knows how to stop my neurotic over-thinking and just let me feel loved and enjoy the moment. If any normal person would look onto the situation you would think we are romantically involved with all of our hugging and hand holding; but its just we love each other and not in a romantic sense, even though we dated, but just loving the other person for who they are. I don’t think anybody can put a label on our relationship and for some reason that makes me so happy.